Life comes with its ups and downs and there are plenty of challenges to face each day. If you’re in the habit of worrying about existing problems, then you’re only adding to your stress and draining yourself. By following the 20 tips in this post, you can start taking steps toward keeping things in perspective and leading a happier life.
Here are 20 steps to having a happier and more fulfilling life.
Get Out of Inaction Mode
Sometimes in life we get stuck and we end up putting all decisions and actions on hold. While we may temporarily feel relief from the responsibility at hand, we still know that it’s something we have to address and it will keep nagging at us subconsciously. This can be very draining and demotivating, and it’s far better to take steps – no matter small – toward the life we wish to have. Whether it’s a matter of improving your career, health, or knowledge of a particular topic, just find a small piece of it that you can tackle and get going. Completing each successive step will encourage you to keep going!
Examine Friends and Acquaintances
The company we keep makes a big difference in terms of what we value, prioritize and strive for. So surround yourself with people who will bring out the best in you, who will support you and keep you on the right path, and who will also give you tough love when you need it.
Examine Habits and Behaviors
Sometimes bad habits start out as very small things that manifest at an early age, but if left unchecked, they can morph into something bigger and cause us – and those around us – great distress or harm. So take a look at your behavior and the habits that are part of your life. Would your life be much easier and satisfying if you ditched certain behaviors and habits? If the answer is yes, then start taking steps toward making a permanent change.
Being envious of others and what they have is a surefire way to bring yourself down and feel lousy about your life. If you find yourself wanting what others have, look at it as a learning opportunity and ask them for advice or guidance. You don’t want to harbor negative feelings of envy but rather, learn what you can from them so that you can also live a fulfilling and happy life.
Hydrate, Hydrate, Hydrate!
Not only is the body a little over 60% water, but it’s said that while we can go 3 weeks without food, we can only go 3 days without water. The body also uses water when it’s producing energy so once you get enough water in you, you’ll likely see changes in your energy, mood and alertness.
Implement A Self Care Routine
Many of us are so busy running around taking care of others, or trying to achieve goals set by society, that we end up neglecting ourselves. So take a step back to look at where your time and energy goes, and make sure you are making time for the things that you love and that really make you happy.
Avoid Relying On Material Things
From clothing and tech gadgets to homes and cars, there is a seemingly infinite number of things that money can buy for us. And while some of these things can make us more feel comfortable, they don’t bring true happiness. Focus instead on the so-called “smaller” things – a sunset, laughter with friends, connecting with family – to bring you more fulfilling happiness.
Learn To Appreciate The Process of Learning
The education we receive in a classroom represents just a sliver of the education that the other aspects of our life will bring our way. New experiences and new lessons are unavoidable in life and they should be cherished rather than looked at as annoyances. By appreciating every new learning opportunity that is given to us, we create less resistance in our lives and it makes the life journey more joyful.
Be Comfortable With Fear
Fear is something that everyone deals with but the trick is to not let it hold you back or paralyze you. Whether it’s a fear of something physical – say, spiders – or an emotional fear – say, fear of being abandoned – find ways to acknowledge it without getting paralyzed by it. Everything from exercise to meditation and hypnotherapy can help you work through all types of fear.
Give Up On Perfection
Rather than insist on being perfect or on insisting that others be perfect, focus on just always doing your best and appreciating those who also do their best. Perfection is an ideal, not a reality and expecting it will only lead you, and those around you, to disappointment.
Give Up On The Perfect Person
Whether it’s your spouse, friends or family know that all your relationships will be somehow imperfect. There are 7.4 billion people on the planet, and each has a unique finger print as well as other things that are unique about them. To expect that any one person will be exactly what you need all the time is not realistic. Instead, embrace the uniqueness and differences, while still ensuring that your core values and principles are being addressed in every relationship in your life.
Appreciate Your Family
Your family plays a significant role in your life, both genetically and epigenetically. Whether you get along with yours or not, take the time to acknowledge that you are forever interlinked. If you have any resentment toward your family, find ways to sort through it so that the negative feelings don’t eat you up and drain you. And remember that throughout life you will make great friends who will become your extended family!
Value Your Uniqueness
It’s very easy to get caught up in comparing yourself to others, but that is a disservice to you. Take stock of what makes you unique and amazing, and start appreciating it, even if others don’t. You don’t need approval from the outside world to love yourself!
Live In The Moment
If you’re spending a lot of time living in the future and avoiding the present because it doesn’t have everything you want right now, then you end up never being present in your own life. And if you’re not living your own life, then who is? Take time to appreciate what you do have right now so that you’re better placed to receive what’s coming next!
Make Peace With Your Past
For some of us the past days were the “good ol’ days” and for others the past is full of hurt and bad memories. Whatever the case may be, living in the past prevents you from enjoying your present and from working toward your future. Work on making peace with your past and embrace where you are (and where you’re going).
Feed Your Body Right
Your body is your home and it is where you reside for your entire existence, so take good care of your “residence” by feeding it nourishing, whole foods. Stay away from sweets and processed foods that have been linked to many modern diseases like cancer and Type II Diabetes.
Some days the to-do list can get overwhelming and you end up choosing to avoid the really important stuff. You can get away with this every once in a while, but making a habit of it means you’re constantly avoiding dealing with things that require your attention. And the more you avoid them, the more aware you are of the fact that they’re not done! So break up tasks into smaller pieces that you can tackle each day.
Complaining is a natural part of life because we need to vent and commiserate with others. However, make sure you’re spending more time working toward a solution and less time complaining. Too much complaining can make you feel powerless, while knowing that you’re working toward a solution is empowering and motivating.
Watch Your Internal Dialogue
If you have voices in your head telling you that you’re not worthy, that you’ll never accomplish your goals or whatever else, take a moment to slow down and turn down the volume of those voices. Yes, it’s important not to make rash decisions or go after something risky, but it’s also essential that you learn to distinguish between the voice of doubt and low self-esteem, and the voice of true reason.
Implement A Regular Sleep Schedule
About a third of our lives is spent sleeping so make sure it’s good quality sleep. Establish a sleep schedule and ritual that allows you get the right amount of R&R so that you wake up feeling energized each morning. Going to sleep at the same time and waking up at the same time allows your body to naturally relax into a routine and greatly reduces your stress levels.